It’s tempting; making “them” the bad guys. Those people who were negative about your choices and didn’t believe in you. When you make them the bad guys it gives you a focus, a drive...an enemy to defeat. I totally get it. But what no one seems to be saying is that pushing for success in order to “prove them wrong” is immature, and a sure sign of a toxic mindset.
First of all, people have their own baggage to deal with. The fact that even those close to you may have been negative or skeptical isn’t really that big of a deal. Most of the time a person’s negative opinion about you or what you’re doing has way more to do with them than you. Negative people tilt that way because they are broken people who haven’t confronted bad things in their life in a way that would allow them to see clearly and optimistically. They aren’t even there for themselves, and they can’t be there for you.
Secondly, being motivated to succeed just so you can indirectly rub it in someone's face is a flat out bad way to operate. Plenty of people gain success by getting energy from twisted motivations...and it steals the soul. Do you really want to win because you let someone else’s negative opinion of you have so much power over you?
Sure, there were people who didn’t believe in me. They thought me staying in business when things weren’t going well was irresponsible, they thought I was all talk, they thought I was wrong. Some people probably still think that too.
Who cares? And I don’t mean that in a “screw them” sort of way. I mean, seriously, it doesn’t matter what they think. I don’t need their belief to feel validated or their disbelief to feel motivated. There are good things in life and noble purposes to pursue...I choose to be motivated by the good things.