







A long time ago I heard someone say “leadership is lonely”. For a while, I didn’t believe it. It sounded overstated and dramatic to me. If you’re an effective leader you eventually will have some amazing people following your lead, which means you’re not alone, right?
Well, I was wrong. Yes, the calling and privilege of leadership is something I’m extremely grateful for, but it turns out that the higher level of success and leadership you reach the more lonely it is. The reason is simple: as you grow, your responsibilities and mindset expand. Most people around you will not grow at the same rate or will stop growing altogether. Basically, you may be admired, but by and large, you will not be understood. And when you are not understood, it’s lonely. Entrepreneurs and other leaders often go through bouts of depression. Some days I’ve woken up wholly unmotivated, even paralyzed. It doesn’t feel good.
Leadership doesn’t have to be depressing and should be full of joy and peace. Over time we should find friends who are heading in the same direction as we are, and always be grateful for the blessings of our calling. However, there are still elements of loneliness and probably times of depression that will still occur.
Sometimes there are deep emotional issues that we should be aware of and address in ourselves, but often a time of depression is simply a result of us needing a recharge or temporary reprieve from the burdens of leadership. For me, I’d say about 80% of the time I’m feeling down, it can be remedied with one or maybe a mix of the following things:
I understand that clinical depression is a real thing, and some people may have chemical imbalances or other issues that merit medication. But I absolutely believe that doctors grossly over-diagnose people with clinical depression, ADD, ADHD, bi-polar, anxiety, etc. Be careful before taking on a diagnosed disorder as part of your identity and becoming dependent on meds.
The moral of the story: take care of yourself. Don’t lean into moments of depression, but be aware of how you are feeling and develop strategies that work for you, so you can keep giving your all as someone who is called to lead.